Introverts are people who tend to feel more comfortable focusing on inner thoughts and ideas rather than what’s going on around them. In most cases, they’re quieter and less outwardly sociable, preferring to spend time with one or two friends rather than big crowds of people. However, introverts aren’t necessarily shy, and they sometimes get tired more quickly when spending more time around others.

If you’re an introvert, you might find it harder to date, as meeting new people can be challenging. It’s difficult even for extroverts, as connecting with someone you’ve just met is hard. Online dating apps have made it a lot easier to find a potential match, providing more convenience and making dating more accessible for everyone, introverts included.

You can now enjoy a wide range of totally free dating sites, some of which are tailored towards helping introverts find the right person for them. Here’s our guide to getting the most out of these sites:

Making Your Profile

The first step of online dating is to make a dating profile. Your profile is a collection of your profile pictures and any information you provide. This includes your interests and hobbies, plus you can write a short bio to give some more information about yourself. Getting this stage right is important if you want to meet the right person.

You shouldn’t simply create a dating profile that will get matches; it’s important to make sure that it conveys your personality so you attract the right people. Some people are tempted to make themselves look more interesting or attractive on their profile, but this can be misleading and may only attract the wrong type of person.

Ensure that your profile photos are flattering but not deceiving and that they’re well-lit and show you clearly. The best online dating photos are ones that show you enjoying your hobby or interest, such as playing sports or painting. If you don’t have any good photos, try asking a friend if they’ll take some for you.

Online dating apps have made it easier for the introvert to meet people
Online dating apps have made it easier for the introvert to meet people

Sending the First Message

Once your profile is up and running, it hopefully won’t be too long before you start getting some potential matches. Depending on the type of dating site or dating app you use, this will happen in different ways. But the main thing to know is that once you get a match, you’ll be able to send your first message. It’s good to message each and every one of your matches; after all, why else would you match with them in the first place?

Be sure to take the time to craft a good message, though. Simply sending “hey” isn’t very interesting, and unless the other person is really keen, it probably isn’t going to work. It can be difficult, but you can use their profile to send something unique. Look at their interests and pictures and see if there’s anything you can start from, even if it’s a compliment.

It’s easy to get stuck in this step, simply sending messages and feeling the validation from getting matches. However, going further is important if you want to start dating. That means moving from messaging to arranging your first date.

Arranging Dates

Once you’ve had some back-and-forth messages and feel something of a connection with the other person, you can think about arranging your date. A lot of introverts wait for the other person to make the first move, but you shouldn’t feel shy about asking. After all, it is a dating app, and they have matched with you, so they’re definitely interested.

Don’t wait too long, and let them know you’re interested in spending time with them in person. Introduce a date idea, making sure it’s something that ties into your mutual interests if you have any. Then agree on a time and date that’s not too far away.


Whether you use an online dating app or dating website you, as an introvert will be looking for that perfect partner that understands you and how you are. Finding the right person will be an adventure for you and will hopefully help you to be more confident in yourself.

Once you have created that online dating profile don’t be surprised if you attract people with a similar personality who shares the same interests and hobbies. The idea of online dating, especially for the introverts is to find that partner you have always craved.